Is there some significance to our dreams? Actually, yes. However, from my experience dreams are not about wish fulfillment as Freud postulated. Our dreams represent an unconscious attempt to work on concerns we are having at the present time. One of my clients has been having nightmares lately after a stressful life event. The fact […]
I recently came across a sign someone put in their yard that said, “KINDNESS ALWAYS”. At first I didn’t think much of it, but then I began pondering what the person who bought it might mean by it. Then I considered what it means to me to “be kind”. I suspect most people think “kindness […]
Putting in effort matters in your mental health. Whether you have anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, or something else. To feel good about yourself, about who you are, or where you are going, put in real effort. I counsel people who are dissatisfied their jobs, social situation, relationships, or maybe their body or personalities. […]
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Counseling for Grief
I’ve provided counseling for grief issues many times in my career as a therapist. Typical grief is related to someone we care about passing away. But there are other types of grief that people have to deal with as well. This could be considered more of a loss than a death. This could be due […]
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You Might Have ADHD Video (funny)
Solution Focused Counseling, also known as Solution Focused Brief Therapy, is a form of cognitive therapy. The focus is on helping you figure out what positive changes you want to make in your life that will lead to better functioning, success, better relationships, and better health. Unlike many other forms of counseling, it does not […]
I’ve counseled a number of newer clients lately who are getting overwhelmed at home and work because they don’t know how to say “no” very easily. It’s usually people who are high on the Agreeableness personality trait that have the hardest time saying no. In other words they say “Yes” when they need to say […]
When I work with couples, I often ask them how they would deal with the same situation they are having with their spouse if it was a coworker instead. We have a tendency to be more kind, patient and diplomatic when addressing problems with our coworkers. We tend to think, “I have to work with […]
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Pre-Irritation Syndrome
Okay, this is just a word I came up with, but it still fits. It’s when you spend time a lot of time being irritated at your partner based on past encounters so that whenever they try to talk to you, you automatically assume they’re going to annoy you. When this happens, it makes getting […]