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Self-Confidence from Competence

I counsel a lot of teenagers and young adults who suffer from low self-confidence. One thing that sometimes happens is they find themselves staying in relationships that aren’t working because they allow their self-worth to be dictated by being in a relationship, or by being valued by their friends, rather than valuing themselves independently for […]

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ADHD

ADHD, Depression, and Anxiety

I work with a lot of adults with ADHD. It’s surprising how often depression and anxiety go hand in hand with this diagnosis.  However, there are good reasons the three seem to go together.   If you have ADHD, you’re probably familiar with not getting things done when they should be getting done.  You’re well […]

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anxiety

Counseling For Anxiety

In my Grand Rapids counseling practice, I provide often provide counseling for anxiety.  One thing I notice about many of my clients is that the anxiety seems to stem from the feeling that things are happening to you and they seem outside your personal control.  When this feeling is strong, anxiety sets in.  If you […]

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Good habits

Bad Habits that Hold You Back

One of the things I do in my counseling practice is help people figure out what positive changes they want to make in their lives.  In doing this, we figure out what exactly it is that you want to be doing differently, and why.  When we do this, we come up with ways to help […]

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Good habits

One Small Change Can Make a Big Difference

If you’re trying to make repairs to your relationship, or just trying to change bad habits or create better ones, one small change can make a big difference. At this point, you may be waiting to read what the one thing is.  Don’t be disappointed but there isn’t one thing that works for all situations.  […]

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building self-esteem Identity

How to Change Your Identity

In solution focused counseling, we usually start with a deceptively simple question, “ What do you want to see change as a result of counseling?”  In a big sense, we’re really asking, “how do you want to change your identity?”  Or put another way, how do you want to change how you view yourself so […]

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counseling for men

Counseling for Men

Being a man can make it hard to find a counselor.  Actually being a man can make it hard to think counseling can be useful.  First of all, the counseling field is mostly women these days so finding a male counselor you can relate to can be tough.  Second of all, the counseling field is […]

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How To Improve Yourself

Many people feel hopeless or helpless when thinking about where they are in life.  For some people,  it seems like they fell into a rut they can’t get out of.  They may be still living with their parents and have a low paying job working what they consider menial labor.  If this is you, you […]

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ADHD

Married to a Spouse with ADHD?

People who are married to a spouse with ADHD often feel like they have another child to take care of.  This can be really frustrating.  It’s also frustrating for the husband who always feels like he screws things up. One of the frustrating things about living with someone with ADHD is that they have poor […]

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Teenagers

Teen Depression

Teen depression is common as you struggle with the multiple demands of school, grades, friends, social pressures, and more.  Teenagers have lots to figure out and sometimes you feel your trying to put it together without the instruction manual.  You have to figure out how to fit in, what group you belong to, and what […]

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Counseling For An Employee?

Are you considering suggesting counseling for an employee? When you see friends and family struggling with life stress,  you may feel comfortable suggesting they try counseling. But what about when you’re a manager or business owner and you see one of your employees struggling?  With employees, you may not see the actual personal things they […]