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ADHD versus Asperger’s Syndrome in Children

ADHD and Aspergers Syndrome (now found on the Autistic Spectrum Disorder) are two common disorders that are usually first diagnosed during childhood. They can appear very similar in their symptoms but have different causes and different treatments. While many children are diagnosed with ADHD in childhood, quite often Aspergers Syndrome is mistaken for ADHD at […]

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Marriage Counseling Relationships

Marriage Counseling: The 6 to 1 Ratio

One thing that often comes up in marriage counseling is the idea of having a successful disagreement. When you live together, things are bound to come up but how do you talk about it without the other person shutting down? In my experience providing marriage counseling to various couples, the shutting down often comes from […]

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Children Parenting Teenagers

Counseling for Teenagers: Get Teens to Listen

This is actually more of a Love and Logic strategy that I incorporate in counseling for teenagers and if you’re not familiar with Love and Logic, do a google search and you’ll tons of books and videos available. Teenagers have a tendency to screw up and do things they shouldn’t or fail to do things they should […]

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Individual Counseling Relationships

Improve Self-esteem: Doubting your Doubts

While counseling a young man who has a tendency toward self-doubt, we were discussing how we tend to view events that occur to us through certain filters which in turn effects our self-esteem. If we tend to have lower self confidence in ourselves, we will tend to, for example, dismiss genuine compliments from others as […]

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Marriage Counseling Relationships

Solution Focused Marriage Counseling

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Individual Counseling Marriage Counseling Parenting Relationships

Relationships: How Criticism Can Drive Someone Away

Below is an article written by a married woman who caught herself criticizing her husband over trivial things rather than focusing on his positive qualities. It was ruining her relationship. She realized her attitude toward him was causing him to feel unloved, unvalued, and basically treated like a child. In her case, her husband had […]

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Individual Counseling

Counseling for Life Stress: Taking Detours

When I provide counseling to people in my Grand Rapids counseling office, they often make progress for a few weeks, then have a day or two when things don’t go as planned. For some people, they tend to view these momentary setbacks as some kind of failure, or proof that they are “always” screwing things up. In […]

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Individual Counseling Teenagers

Counseling for self-esteem: “I tried it on and it fit”

As a counselor for teenagers and college students, I often see clients who are struggling with personal identity and need counseling for self-esteem and to develop a personal sense of identify. High school students, college students, and young adults often have trouble figuring out who they are and exactly how they should navigate their world. […]

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Marriage Counseling Relationships

Solution Focused Counseling helps Marriages

When couples come to counseling to resolve marital issues, one thing they often hope for is that the therapist will be able to help the other person finally realize how wrong they have been and admit to it, then do things differently from now on. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really work that way. I’ve rarely observed someone who […]

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Children Parenting Teenagers

Successful Parenting: Parental Screen Addiction

As a therapist who works with lots of teenagers, I often talking about successful parenting skills. I often caution parents about not letting their kids spend too much time playing video games or playing on their iPhones. However, over the past couple of years, it seems just as important to remind parents about their own […]