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5 Things To Stop Doing to Your Husband:

I often provide counseling for men and women individually. I get to hear a lot of their concerns and complaints about what happens when their relationships go sour. Both sexes seem to have their own set of grievances. And in my counseling for men, there are some things that come up quite frequently. Here are […]

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building self-esteem Good habits Individual Counseling social anxiety

Big Changes Start Small: The Scaling Question

Big changes start small. This is what I learned from behavioral theory. There is a lot of overlap between effective behavioral change and Solution Focused Brief Therapy.  Steve deShazer, co-creator of SFBT said he doesn’t know why SFBT works, he just knows it does.  After studying work about behaviorism and developing habits, I put together […]

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communication

Communication: Understanding vs. Agreement

I work with many couples in my Grand Rapids counseling practice.  One of the big issues that comes up is communication.  You’ve probably heard this before but we all have a tendency to talk over each other and not really listen.  Instead, we’re waiting for them to stop talking so we can say what we […]

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ADHD

ADHD, Depression, and Anxiety

I work with a lot of adults with ADHD. It’s surprising how often depression and anxiety go hand in hand with this diagnosis.  However, there are good reasons the three seem to go together.   If you have ADHD, you’re probably familiar with not getting things done when they should be getting done.  You’re well […]

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anxiety

Counseling For Anxiety

In my Grand Rapids counseling practice, I provide often provide counseling for anxiety.  One thing I notice about many of my clients is that the anxiety seems to stem from the feeling that things are happening to you and they seem outside your personal control.  When this feeling is strong, anxiety sets in.  If you […]

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Good habits

Bad Habits that Hold You Back

One of the things I do in my counseling practice is help people figure out what positive changes they want to make in their lives.  In doing this, we figure out what exactly it is that you want to be doing differently, and why.  When we do this, we come up with ways to help […]

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Good habits

One Small Change Can Make a Big Difference

If you’re trying to make repairs to your relationship, or just trying to change bad habits or create better ones, one small change can make a big difference. At this point, you may be waiting to read what the one thing is.  Don’t be disappointed but there isn’t one thing that works for all situations.  […]

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building self-esteem Identity

How to Change Your Identity

In solution focused counseling, we usually start with a deceptively simple question, “ What do you want to see change as a result of counseling?”  In a big sense, we’re really asking, “how do you want to change your identity?”  Or put another way, how do you want to change how you view yourself so […]

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counseling for men

Counseling for Men

Being a man can make it hard to find a counselor.  Actually being a man can make it hard to think counseling can be useful.  First of all, the counseling field is mostly women these days so finding a male counselor you can relate to can be tough.  Second of all, the counseling field is […]

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How To Improve Yourself

Many people feel hopeless or helpless when thinking about where they are in life.  For some people,  it seems like they fell into a rut they can’t get out of.  They may be still living with their parents and have a low paying job working what they consider menial labor.  If this is you, you […]