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Effort Matters in Mental Health

Putting in effort matters in your mental health. Whether you have anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, or something else. To feel good about yourself, about who you are, or where you are going, put in real effort. I counsel people who are dissatisfied their jobs, social situation, relationships, or maybe their body or personalities. […]

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Some Input from James Clear, Author of “Atomic Habits”

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Counseling for Grief

I’ve provided counseling for grief issues many times in my career as a therapist.  Typical grief is related to someone we care about passing away.  But there are other types of grief that people have to deal with as well.  This could be considered more of a loss than a death.  This could be due […]

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You Might Have ADHD Video (funny)

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What is Solution Focused Counseling?

Solution Focused Counseling, also known as Solution Focused Brief Therapy, is a form of cognitive therapy.  The focus is on helping you figure out what positive changes you want to make in your life that will lead to better functioning, success, better relationships, and  better health.  Unlike many other forms of counseling, it does not […]

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How to Say “No” When You Need To.

I’ve counseled a number of newer clients lately who are getting overwhelmed at home and work because they don’t know how to say “no” very easily.  It’s usually people who are high on the Agreeableness personality trait that have the hardest time saying no.  In other words they say “Yes” when they need to say […]

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I have to Work With This Person

When I work with couples, I often ask them how they would deal with the same situation they are having with their spouse if it was a coworker instead.  We have a tendency to be more kind, patient and diplomatic when addressing problems with our coworkers.  We tend to think, “I have to work with […]

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Pre-Irritation Syndrome

Okay, this is just a word I came up with, but it still fits.  It’s when you spend time a lot of time being irritated at your partner based on past encounters so that whenever they try to talk to you, you automatically assume they’re going to annoy you.  When this happens, it makes getting […]

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You Can’t Exercise Your Way Out of a Bad Diet

I’m not sure whose quote this is, but obviously someone in good shape.  But it makes perfect sense.  If you do some checking about how many calories you can burn doing any particular exercise, it doesn’t really amount to many calories if you’re trying to lose weight. For example, if you walk for an hour, […]

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People Change Best By Feeling Good, Not Bad

I counsel  lots of people who are trying to get other people to behave differently. This may be a parent who is trying to get their kids to behave better or do their chores.  It may be someone who is trying to get their spouse to treat them more with more respect.  It may also […]