Many people experience anxiety, it can range from mild worrying about something like an upcoming meeting to full blown panic attacks. Many people not only experience anxiety but also inwardly criticize themselves for having anxiety in the first place, which makes it worse. They try to tell themselves to relax, and when they can’t relax, […]
More often than I like to think about, counseling fails to help people. I have a few clients who come to counseling week after week, we talk about how to improve their lives, they agree heartily with the suggestions I make, then come back and nothing has changed. Did you try the suggestions when you […]
This time of year, many of us are trying to establish new healthy habits through New Year’s resolutions. One great way to do this is through “Decisive Moments”. We tend to focus on the activity that gets us the results we want, such as going to the gym three days a week. What is more […]
We all struggle with getting motivated to do things we need to do but don’t really want to do. We say things like “I have to go to work”. I have to clean the house”, “I have to do my homework”. This takes something that is a necessary task and makes it somewhat more difficult […]
Those of us with ADHD tend to be notorious about letting our homes get cluttered. We tend to get things out and not put them away. Living with us is can be like living with a human hurricane that leaves a mess in its wake. There’s a tendency to have times of concentrated energy and […]
How do you deal with mistakes and the criticism that follows? My son had a situation in a soccer game last week where he made a mistake and got called out for it by his teammates. He was feeling embarrassed and angry. It was tempting to tell him the other kids were just being jerks […]
Dealing with teenage behavior problems can be very taxing for both you and your teen. There comes a point in teenager’s lives where they need to learn to be independent from parents and act like adults. Unfortunately, they can be terrible at it. Most teenagers seem to start this by deciding to be rebellious. This […]
I’ve been watching some of the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard court situation. It’s interesting to listen to some of the recordings being provided, which they have both apparently provided. As I listen to these recordings, my impression is Amber shifts her statements and fails to stay on topic. She adjusts what she is […]
Quite often in my counseling practice, I tell my clients to do something that sounds counterintuitive. I tell couples to start arguments. However, I tell them to start an argument over something fun, such as which ice cream flavor is best. I have them do these practice arguments using strategies we discuss in marriage counseling. […]